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“If God Wasn’t With Me”: How Christianity Shifted from Communal Faith to Individualized Belief
When a popular food critic thanked God for surviving a fatal crash, the internet erupted. But the real story isn't about one man's testimony—it's about a 200-year evolution that turned a radical community of mutual aid into a platform for personal favor.
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The video was meant to be a testimony. Keith Lee, the popular food critic with millions of followers, sat in his car shaken. He had just survived a near-fatal wrong-way crash on a Dallas highway. An intoxicated driver in a stolen vehicle had barreled toward him, and Lee swerved just in time. The driver continued past him and slammed into the cars behind, killing 29-year-old Kenan Ellis, a father of two. In the aftermath, Lee posted an emotional video thanking God for sparing his family. "If God wasn't with me last night," he said, "I wouldn't be here." Within days, the backlash was ferocious. Lee deleted the video. But the controversy he ignited didn't disappear—because it wasn't really about him.
The Keith Lee debacle became a cultural Rorschach test because it forced the public to confront a question that has been simmering beneath the surface of Western Christianity for centuries: When did the faith of the early church—a radical, communal movement that pooled resources and cared for the stranger—become a platform for individual branding and personal divine favor? The answer is not simple, but it is traceable. And what it reveals is that the controversy was never just about one man's words. It was about the entire architecture of modern American faith.
The criticism of Lee centered on a specific framing. He didn't simply express gratitude for being alive—a deeply human response to a near-death experience. He personalized it. He centered himself. "He drove right past me, y'all. I watched it!" he said. "If God wasn't with me, I don't know who was." Critics argued that treating a highway horror that killed a father as a tailor-made "testimony" for his personal platform fundamentally centered himself over the actual loss of life. The theological dilemma was immediate and painful: if God actively chose to turn the wheel for Keith Lee, then God actively chose not to turn it for Kenan Ellis. One family's miracle was directly tied to another family's worst nightmare.
The Ancient Model: Radical Mutualism
To understand why this framing felt so jarring to so many, it helps to remember what Christianity looked like at its inception. The early church was not a weekly gathering for personal inspiration. It was a radical socioeconomic alternative to the Roman Empire. The New Testament records that early Christians "held all things in common" and sold their possessions to distribute the proceeds to anyone who had need (Acts 2:44-45). Wealthy converts were expected to divest from their status to fund the community. Early church fathers like Basil the Great preached that luxury while others starved was a sin. "The bread which you hold back belongs to the hungry," he wrote. "The coat, which you guard in your locked chests, belongs to the naked." The church was a sanctuary of collective survival. Your worth was not tied to your personal spiritual resume; it was tied to your incorporation into a body that would not let you starve.
This was not merely theological rhetoric. It was structural. The early church functioned as an economic safety net for the marginalized. If you were a member, you were guaranteed that the community would not let you be homeless or go without burial. The primary metaphor for the church was a human body—an eye cannot survive without the foot, a hand cannot boast against the ear. An individual could not fully experience the faith in isolation. The goal was not to prove you were God's favorite. The goal was to make sure everyone was good.
The Shift: From "We" to "Me"
So how did we get from there to here? Historians track the transformation across four major shifts. The first was the Protestant Reformation in the 1500s, which introduced the "priesthood of all believers." While this democratized faith, it shifted the primary focus from the collective body to the individual conscience. For the first time, your personal belief became more important than your community's collective practice. The second was the Second Great Awakening in the early 1800s, a wave of American revivals that reframed salvation as an individual choice and an individual triumph. This perfectly mirrored the rise of American industrial capitalism, where spiritual success began to be framed exactly like economic success: a result of your hard work and personal faith.
The third shift was perhaps the most consequential. The merging of big business and Christianity was intentionally manufactured in the 1930s. When President Franklin D. Roosevelt launched the New Deal—a massive communal safety net to help the poor during the Great Depression—corporate CEOs fought back. Tycoons from General Motors and major manufacturing firms bankrolled conservative, individualistic pastors. They paid these ministers to preach that the New Deal was "pagan statism" and that the core of Christianity was actually private property, free enterprise, and the salvation of the individual. This successfully welded the concept of faith to the concept of capitalism in the American mind.
- The Reformation (1500s): Shifted focus from the collective church to the individual conscience.
- The Second Great Awakening (1800s): Reframed salvation as a personal choice, mirroring capitalist individualism.
- The Corporate Alliance (1930s): Business leaders funded pastors to preach that Christianity meant free enterprise, not communal welfare.
- The Megachurch Boom (1970s–80s): The church adopted a corporate business model, preaching therapeutic self-actualization.
The Final Evolution: The Influencer Era
By the 1970s and 1980s, the church had officially adopted the corporate business model. Pastors realized that to fill auditoriums, they had to stop preaching difficult, communal demands and start preaching therapeutic self-actualization. The Prosperity Gospel exploded through television. Preachers discovered that if they framed wealth as "God's personal reward for your individual faith," donations skyrocketed. The church structure shifted from a local, accountable body into a massive media corporation where the pastor acted as a CEO. And by the time we reach the 21st century and the rise of social media, the transition was complete. The "personal relationship with Jesus" had been fully digitized.
This is the world Keith Lee was raised in. When he posted his video, he was not acting in a vacuum. He was operating at the peak of a 200-year-old American pipeline that took a religion about collective survival and successfully repackaged it as a tool for personal advancement. The language of "God got me" is the language of the modern environment. It is the language of a faith that has been optimized for personal branding, personal favor, and self-promotion.
The Keith Lee controversy did not invent this mindset. It merely exposed it. And it did so in a way that was impossible to ignore. Because the backlash wasn't just about theology. It was about the uncomfortable reality of how social media algorithms and influencer culture pressure public figures to treat real-world disasters as content to process their own lives. Lee admitted in the video that knowing someone died almost made him keep the story to himself, but he "couldn't help himself" because he felt obligated to "scream it from the rooftops" to give God glory. Critics argued that if his urge to make content was stronger than his instinct to respect a fresh tragedy, it was a display of main-character syndrome. The video transformed a horrific public safety tragedy into a story about Keith Lee's personal spiritual favor.
The Baby Formula Experiment
If the Keith Lee controversy was a spark, the viral social experiment conducted by TikTok creator Nikalie Monroe was the explosion. Monroe, a drug addiction counselor and Army veteran from Kentucky, called over 40 churches posing as a desperate mother with a two-month-old baby who had run out of formula. She didn't ask for cash or rent money—just a single can of formula to feed a crying infant. Nearly 80% of the churches declined to help. Several told her they only assist official members of their own congregation. Many tangled her in administrative tape, telling her she would need to fill out intake forms, wait for committee approvals, or come back on designated days. Multiple megachurches, including Joel Osteen's Lakewood Church, hung up on her.
Strikingly, when Monroe called a local Mosque and a Buddhist temple, they bypassed all interrogation. The representative at the Islamic Center immediately asked for her location, what type of formula the baby needed, and offered to buy whatever was necessary at any cost. The few churches that did pass her test with immediate warmth were predominantly historically Black churches or small, rural, working-class congregations—spaces where collective survival and community resilience have historically remained central to the faith. This experiment caused a massive wave of soul-searching online because it proved the exact point: when a religion shifts from being a communal organism to an individualistic corporate enterprise, it stops looking out into the neighborhood. It becomes a place where individuals go to get their personal spiritual fuel on Sunday, while the immediate physical crisis on their doorstep goes entirely ignored.
The "God's Favorite" Metric vs. "Making Sure Everyone is Good"
The contrast between these two models is the key to understanding the Keith Lee controversy. In the "God's Favorite" metric, faith is treated like a cosmic VIP pass. The goal is to collect and broadcast evidence of personal divine favor. The evidence is surviving the crash while others die, driving the Rolls-Royce while others ride the bus. The core flaw is that it requires a hierarchy. For your survival or wealth to be a "special miracle," it inherently implies that those who didn't receive it are somehow less favored, less faithful, or outside of God's immediate protection. It reduces God to a transactional entity that picks winners and losers based on personal clout or tithing metrics.
In the historic Christian model, individual favor wasn't the goal—collective resilience was. The metric of a healthy spiritual community wasn't how high the highest person rose, but how well the lowest person was protected. The evidence was no one in the community going hungry, resources being pooled to cover a neighbor's medical crisis, and a shared safety net that caught anyone who fell. If the goal is making sure everyone is good, you don't brag about your personal luxury car or your personal close-call on the highway. Instead, your immediate instinct is to look at the wreckage or the poverty around you and ask, "How do we fix this together?"
When a religion's top influencers view a horrific car crash as a personalized "miracle" for their content feed, and its top pastors view a fleet of Rolls-Royces as a personalized "blessing" for their garage, the message sent to the world is identical: God exists to serve the individual. It is why 40 churches can turn away a mother begging for a single can of baby formula. The capital, the focus, and the culture of the modern institution are funneled upward to sustain the "main characters" of the faith, leaving the surrounding neighborhood completely abandoned.
The Keith Lee controversy was never just about a food critic and a tragic accident. It was a mirror held up to modern Western Christianity, and the reflection was uncomfortable. It revealed a faith that has largely traded its communal roots for individualistic branding. Can the modern church return to its communal roots, or has consumer capitalism permanently altered the DNA of Western faith? The answer may determine not just the future of the church, but the future of community itself.
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